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גַּם הַנָּשִׁים חַיָּבוֹת בְּקִדּוּשׁ. עַל כֵּן יִשְׁמְעוּ הֵיטֵב אֶת הַקִּדּוּשׁ וְיַעֲנוּ אָמֵן, אֲבָל בָּרוּךְ הוּא וּבָרוּךְ שְׁמוֹ לֹא יֹאמְרוּ (עַיֵן לְעֵיל סִימָן ו' סָעִיף ט). וְקָטֹן אֲפִלּוּ הוּא בֶּן שְׁלֹשׁ עֶשְׂרֵה שָׁנָה, אִם אֵינוֹ יָדוּעַ שֶׁהֵבִיא שְׁתֵּי שְׂעָרוֹת, אֵינוֹ מוֹצִיא אֶת הָאִשָּׁה, וְלָכֵן תְּקַדֵּשׁ הָאִשָּׁה בְּעַצְמָהּ. וְאִם אֵינָהּ יוֹדַעַת, תֹּאמַר עִם הַקָּטֹן מִלָּה בְּמִלָּה. וְגַם אִם שׁוֹמַעַת אֶת הַקִּדּוּשׁ מִן הַבַּעַל אוֹ מֵאִישׁ אַחֵר, יוֹתֵר נָכוֹן הוּא שֶׁתֹּאמַר עִם הַמְּקַדֵּשׁ מִלָּה בְּמִלָּה (עַיֵן דָּגוּל מֵרְבָבָה. וְעַיֵּן בְּשׁלְחָן עָרוּךְ הַתַּנְיָא). (אִם יֵשׁ כַּמָה בַּעֲלֵי בָתִּים בְּבַיִת אֶחָד, אֵיךְ יִתְנַהֲגוּ בַּקִּדּוּשׁ, עַיֵן לְקַמָּן סִימָן קל"ה סָעִיף ו') (רע"א).
Women are also obligated to recite kiddush.19See Maseches Berachos 20b. Therefore when necessary they may say kiddush and thereby exempt men but they should not do so in public [Bais Yosef 271. See Taz, Magein Avraham 271: 2]. Therefore they should listen well to the kiddush and answer Amein. But the should not say20For it is an interruption of the berachah. [Dagul Meirevavah, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 6: 9]. Many Poskim maintain that it is permitted to say it. [Chikrei Leiv, Beis Aharon etc. See Birkei Yosef. Also see Maharam Schick (Orach Chaim resp. 51)]. Our custom is not to say it, but one need not protest when others say it. Baruch Hu uvaruch shemo [Blessed is He and blessed is His Name.] A minor,21Not found in all editions. even if he is thirteen years old, but is not known to have two pubic hairs, cannot exempt the woman, and therefore the woman should recite kiddush herself.22Magein Avraham. And if she doesn't know how to say it, she should say it word by word with the minor.23Peri Megadim. Also see Magein Avraham 193. Similarly if she hears the kiddush from her husband or another man, it is most proper that she should say it word by word24This applies to a situation where she does not understand the words. Also see Shaarei Teshuvah 296: 3. with the one who recites kiddush. (See Dagul Meirevavah and Shulchan Aruch haTanya.) (If there are several heads of a household in one house, the correct procedure of reciting kiddush is discussed in chapter 135, paragraph 6.)
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן העולם הבא שנאמר הליכות עולם לו אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות (נדה ע"ג.)