סימן קנג סעיף יב
לֹא תִמְזֹג לוֹ כּוֹס יַיִן בְפָנָיו אוֹ לַהֲבִיאוֹ לוֹ וּלְהַנִּיחוֹ לְפָנָיו עַל הַשֻּׁלְחָן, וְלֹא תַצִּיעַ לוֹ מִטָּתוֹ בְפָנָיו. אֲבָל שֶלֹּא בְפָנָיו, הַכֹּל מֻתָּר, אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁהוּא יוֹדֵע שֶהִיא עָשָׂתָה. וַאֲסוּרָה לִצּוֹק לוֹ מַיִם לִרְחוֹץ פָּנָיו יָדָיו וְרַגְלָיו, וַאֲפִלּוּ מַיִם צוּנְנִים.
She may not pour a cup of wine for you in your presence,19Rashba and Rav Hamaggid say that this rule applies only to wine and not to anything else. This is also the opinion of the Taz, Lechem V’Simla (author of the Kitzur) and Aruch Hashulchan. However the Bach and Shach say it applies to all food and beverage (except water). Chochmas Adam says it is best to be strict if possible. nor may she bring it and place it in front of you at the table;20If she does so in an unusual manner, such as placing it down with her left hand or placing it somewhat away from him so that he will have to move it himself, it is permitted. nor may she make your bed in your presence. But when not in your presence, all these things are permitted, even though you know that she did them. She is forbidden to pour water21Some poskim say this refers to pouring water on any part of you or into the tub in which are now washing yourself (Ramban, Ritvah, Tashbatz 3:230, and Taz). However, Rabbenu Yonah, Eshkol, Bach, and Shach say this refers also to just preparing the water for you to wash. This is the opinion of the Beis Meir, Chavos Da’as and Chochmas Adam. to wash your face and hands and feet, even if the water is cold.
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן העולם הבא שנאמר הליכות עולם לו אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות (נדה ע"ג.)