סימן קנג סעיף יד

אִם הוּא חוֹלֶה וְאֵין לוֹ מִי שֶׁיְשַׁמֵּשׁ אוֹתוֹ זוּלָתָהּ, מֻתֶּרֶת לְשַׁמְּשׁוֹ שִׁמּוּשׁ שֶׁאֵין בּוֹ נְגִיעָה, רַק עַל יְדֵי דָבָר אַחֵר, אֲפִלּוּ לַהֲקִימוֹ וּלְהַשְׁכִיבוֹ וּלְתָמְכוֹ, רַק שֶׁתִּזָהֵר בְּיוֹתֵר מֵהַרְחָצַת פָּנָיו יָדָיו וְרַגְלָיו וְהַצַּעַת הַמִּטָּה בְּפָנָיו. וְאִם הָאִשָּׁה חוֹלָה, אָסוּר לְבַעְלָהּ לְשַׁמְּשָׁהּ, אֲפִלּוּ בְּלֹא נְגִיעָה, אֶלָּא אִם כֵּן בִּשְׁעַת דְּחָק גָּדוֹל, שֶׁאִי אֶפְשָׁר לִמְצֹא מִי שֶׁיְשַׁמְּשֶׁנָּה. וְאִם הַבַּעַל הוּא רוֹפֵא וְאֵין שָׁם רוֹפֵא אַחֵר מֻמְחֶה כָּמוֹהוּ, מֻתָּר לוֹ לְמַשֵּׁשׁ לָהּ אֶת הַדֹּפֶק, כֵּיוָן שֶׁאֵינוֹ עוֹשֶׂה דֶּרֶךְ תַּאֲוָה וְחִבָּה.

If you are sick and there is no one but her to attend you, she is permitted to attend you²⁴Even if you are not dangerously ill. But if you just have a minor illness, it is not permitted. (Aruch Hashulchan) but without direct contact with your body,²⁵If this is not possible, she may do it even if she touches you. but rather by means of some object. She may even raise you up, lay you down, and support you. But she must be very careful not to wash your face, hands, and feet, or make your bed in your presence. If the woman is sick (when she is a niddah), her husband is forbidden to attend her, even without touching her,²⁶Shulchan Aruch 185:15, Beis Yosef. Trumas Hadeshen and Chochmas Adam rule that it is forbidden only if you touch her. The source of the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch is unknown. According to the Ramah, Chavos Da’as, Sidrei Taharah, and Chochmas Adam, this is permitted only if her illness is dangerous to her life (or limb). However, the Radvaz, Zerah Emess, and Lechem V’simla permit this even when such dangers are not involved. except in a case of extreme emergency, when it is impossible to find someone else to attend her. If the husband is a physician, and there is no other physician as competent as himself, he may feel her pulse, since he is not doing it out of desire or love.

תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן העולם הבא שנאמר הליכות עולם לו אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות (נדה ע"ג.)